Some people can argue that friends are even closer than family. You can tell a friend anything that you wouldn't necessarily tell your family members. Trust is the key in friendships.
We all have friends. Some have more than others and some have had friends for as long as they can remember. Regardless, we all have friends.
The problem with friends are that, at times we don't truly know who is genuine and who isn't.
So what is a real friend?
Does a real friend comfort you when you are upset, feeling irritable? Does a real friend know what you like and what you don't like? Does a real friend tell you when your wrong or right?
Some friendships last forever, most end up short. Why is this?
Is it because if a friend does something small e.g. made an innocent and harmless joke about something you didn't find funny at all the friendship is terminated? Or maybe because you ended up liking the same person and the friendship got terminated because of that?
Is it because when friends have a falling out, both of them are too stubborn to make up or are too headstrong and proud to make the first move?
You can trust someone with everything, then one day in a heated argument over something little you blurt the secrets of your friend that you promised you would keep forever. Then as you stand there stunned thoughts are going through your head. Was that person really your friend to begin with?
They say, a friend who you share secrets with has the power to destroy you. What do you think about that?
Everyone wants their friends to do one simple thing: to be real. So why don't some friends do this?
Very engaging and real post, you old nothing back.
ReplyDeleteIn response to one of your questions, yes, it is true that a friend who knows your secrets has the power to destroy you, but I have never quite liked that idea. I think it is downright childish and disrespectful. But who am I to say anything? People will be people.
Ultimately, it all boils down to CHOICES. Unlike family, you choose your friends, and we all choose friends differently because there are different strokes for different folks, as you know. If you choose a person who will derive pleasure from destroying you at the end of your friendship, I'm sorry to say, but you did choose in the end. And you'll always know. You always know what kind of friend to tell certain things to. Take the situation where one of your friends enjoys a good ol' gossip, chances they'd destroy you? HIGH.
Also, the issue of friendship is a very delicate one that I hate to talk about. It's very controversial as well.
Friendship is synonymous with love, we take the good and the bad together. We love them "flaws and all." So a simple error should not break a friendship. And I think this is why we make use of the term "acquaintance" today. It describes those relationships that won't stand the test of time and difficulties.
If we began to see friendship as we see marriage, I think there won't be problems. Well, the sacredness of marriage.
True friendship should stand the test of time and difficulties. True friendship should stay strong in time of trouble. True friendship will work despite the distance and restricted communication. My experience is an example,and my mother's experience is another example.
It seems something is bothering you, and I don't need to know what it is. What I'd say though is, friendship is something that we have lost sight of, and we maybe if we see it as some see marriage, we would understand the might of friendship.